How Can We Approach a Necessary Divorce Wisely and Well
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If a crutch is needed to be able to move on and that crutch is a new
"romance" for one of the partners, we are looking at double-trouble. It
may be a way to leave but it comes with baggage galore and usually takes
things into a war zone. A triangle is formed. The spouse and children
who are being left behind will feel doubly abandoned and have an "enemy"
to focus on. That's not a wise way to approach dissolution when it's an
eventuality.
In the triangle situation, the person leaving has reduced all future
options to an either/or choice...while at the same time being in no
condition, emotionally, to know what could or should come next. How
often have we seen the disastrous results of an "out of the frying pan
into the fire" solution?
However, the need for a crutch may be very real and even necessary. When
that happens...it's time to seek-out wise, unbiased friends, (which may
be hard to find), and/or a good counselor to provide some much needed
support and direction. If things have gone way past reconciliation, then
someone to help steer the ship through troubled waters could make all
the difference.
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